It's not easy to strike out on your own. You may want to do it gradually, gaining a little bit of independence at a time. But you don't always get this luxury, depending on your situation. Sometimes you have to do a big leap and figure it out on your own. If you have a difficult relationship with your parents, this might be what you end up having to do. You would rather try and fail on your own than rely on them for the things you need to survive. That's the crossroads this young person was at when a decision to move in with her boyfriend presented a new financial reality. Sometimes you grow up bit by bit, and sometimes it happens all at once. It's not easy to leave the nest under any circumstances, especially when things are getting nasty.
Sometimes you're better off asking for forgiveness rather than permission, and this can be a great lesson to learn at a young age. But you have to be ready to face the consequences if you do. The parents in this story clearly wanted control of what their child was doing, even after they were an adult. Control is often a two-way street. This young woman wanted independence, but there was still a lot that she was relying on her parents for. This is a difficult balancing act as you get older.